Tuesday, 28 August 2012

Virginity cream and sexual partners

Ok going to write on this http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-asia-india-19353039 because it is just odd!

It brings up so many questions...

The premise is simple you rub a cream on your vagina, the cream tightens the muscles giving the sensation of intercourse for the first time. Effectively making you a virgin again. Apparently.

Except it doesn't does it. You will still have had the experience of having sex with someone, you still will not be a virgin because you have had sex. Regardless of your physical condition. I will say it again, you are no longer a virgin if you have had sex.

Although the advert sounds hilarious. Actually, it is hilarious http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rgqiO4sd848 . I do love the tag line 'get it right, get it tight'.

I get the importance attributed to being a virgin, I do honestly. What I don't get is why it's always the woman that has to be the virgin in these situations. Why is there not a corrosive penis scrub for the man so that he doesn't have the epithelial tissue that has been inside a woman anymore. Or maybe they could make really thick condoms so you don't feel anything anymore which would mean its 'not really sex' so a man can retain his virginity.

I find it difficult to accept in the 21st Century that we are still holding to outdated notions of 'purity' to the point where a product like this needs to be marketed.

Unless I am missing the point and its actually just a sex aid!

Yeah that has to be it, right? It's just to improve the 'feel' of sex for people.

Unfortunately it doesn't seem to be that way. It seems more to be so that girls can hide their 'shame' at having had sex before marriage. Which is just sickening. That they have to hide their shame I mean. Not the sex before marriage thing, that to me at least and my way of thinking is normal. Cue jokes about not buying a car without a test drive etc and snare drum rolls and everyone chuckles. Seriously though humans are a sexual creature, you only have to look at adverts, films, listen to songs to see that.

In fact you can go further and pretty much claim that our society is built upon the desire to seem more attractive to a mate. Slightly off topic I know but try it. Think of something you do, work, sport what ever and I bet within about 3 degrees of separation you can get to impressing the opposite sex.

e.g. shopping- look good - attract people


play sport - be healthy - be attractive


work hard - afford nice things - be attractive

I know I know a bit over simplistic and probably wrong on many levels. I just find it strange coming from a biology background where sex is so prevalent that we are still as a species not accepting the finer points of sexuality between adults. Anyone who has studied anything to do with the natural world - and sexually reproducing animals - knows how important and prevalent sex can be. Here we are in a sexual world with wall to wall sex being transmitted to us and in a way that has never been before allowing our young people to be exposed to it at a younger age - internet, social media etc. And we are still having places that believe a woman is shamed if she has sex before marriage.

This is especially odd when there is somewhat a trend for marriages to be declining in the west  ( http://scholar.google.co.uk/scholar?q=decline+in+marriage&hl=en&as_sdt=0&as_vis=1&oi=scholart&sa=X&ei=XYg8ULCOEKSS0QW224D4Cw&ved=0CBsQgQMwAA ) and taking this article from Australia as an example (http://www.abs.gov.au/ausstats/abs@.nsf/0/26D94B4C9A4769E6CA25732C00207644?opendocument) the trend is also for divorces rates to increase.

So the question becomes is marriage becoming outdated? Or is it that society is just moving past this notion of people meeting someone and settling instantly down. Is it better to have a longer courtship to iron out issues that may effect a marriage before you get married. Of course that also means that you risk breaking up with a long term sexual partner if things get irreconcilable. Which shock horror means that your average number of sexual partners pre-marriage might be higher than it was 50-60 years ago.

Surely if society is changing - meeting more people, getting married later, working longer (hate that one!) then we should change with it?

After all it's not like we live in the 50's anymore is it. Next you will be telling me there are places where homosexuality is still illegal...


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